Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Christian Carter Talks About Women's Intuition - and What Kills It

According to Christian Carter, many women spend their time obsessing over their relationships – worrying whether or not their man is withdrawing, trying to read between the lines with every little things he says, trying to interpret his movements and his body language to see if something is “wrong”.

Instead of being helpful, many times this leads to undue stress, needy and clingy behavior, suspicion and feelings of paranoia for the man. According to Christian Carter, when a man starts noticing these needy behaviors, it DOES make him withdraw – so by trying to “figure a man out”, oftentimes women end up being the catalyst that drives him away. It’s a heartbreaking paradox, yet it is repeated over and over again.

Christian Carter – even though he is a man – has noticed something, though, about women’s intuition. If a woman is to sit back and let her TRUE intuition – the subconscious “feelers” that women can extend out and take the true measure of a situation with – many times this is much more effective than trying to reproduce your intuition with conscious interpretation.

So – Christian Carter has developed several steps that women can take in order to allow their true intuition to shine through, while leaving the negativity and forced interpretation behind.

The first step Christian Carter outlines in his plan is to begin thinking POSITIVELY – quit filling your mind with negative emotions such as fear, doubt and suspicion. Stop the obsessive, merry-go-round thoughts about what is wrong. When you think negatively, you invite negativity into your life, you invite problems and negative situations. Instead – interrupt that voice in your head and tell it to go take a long walk off a short peer.

Christian Carter maintains that if you are feeling acutely anxious about something – it is NOT your intuition telling you something. Think about it – the voice of your intuition is a soft whisper in your ear – not a screaming shrew.

When you begin feeling that anxiety – it shows. It shows in your life, your relationship, your communication, and sooner or later – as dense as men can be – he is GOING to notice. Then he gets freaked out. And when a man is freaking out, he bails.

The next bit of advice Christian Carter offers is to STOP trying to make sense out of your man. Do you think he understands you and what makes you tick? Really and truly? More than likely – not so much. So don’t think that YOU understand everything about him either.

Instead – focus on YOURSELF. The only person that you have control over is YOURSELF. The only person you can fix is you. So concentrate on you, and becoming the best person that you can be by becoming mature and maintaining emotional maturity, learning to understand your own reactions and emotions, developing your own interests and being your own person.

The third piece of advice that Christian Carter offers his readers is to simply quit trying to figure everything out. Understand that you do not – nor will you ever – understand everything. Its kind of like the law of attraction – open yourself up to your own fallibility, your own experience as well as the experience of the world around you and LEARN by realizing that you do not know, see, hear, experience or understand everything. Even a tenth of everything. There are forces at work in this world beyond your control, so accept it, learn to live with the surprises, embrace the spontaneity of life itself, and keep on trucking.

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