Christian Carter Tells Women - Screw Validation!

Communication is a key concept that Christian Carter discusses in his Catch Him and Keep him eBook. How women respond to men is an integral part of relationship management – on any level in any situation – and can really make or break a relationship.

We have all heard, whether we are a man or a woman, that men are from Mars and women are from Venus, we are two sides of a different coin, we are worlds apart and make no sense (a line from Last of the Mohicans that I have always loved!) etc. The general consensus, however it is phrased, is that men and women are two very separate species when it comes to communication and understanding.

I get that, and its ok! Its OK to not always understand what your man is thinking. Christian Carter stresses in catch Him and Keep Him that it is natural and to be EXPECTED.

However, one of the key mistakes that we make, as women, is trying to get MEN to validate OUR thought process and OUR reactions. Now, think about what Christian Carter is saying here for a second.

1) Men and women think, inherently, and react differently, to many situations
2) It’s ok when we do not always understand each other; it’s to be expected
3) If we cannot expect to understand them, how is that we, as women, want to MAKE them understand us?

The point is, trying to make a man VALIDATE your feelings and tell you it is ok to feel the way you do or react the way you do is not going to work. What you are trying to do, in essence, is force him to conform to your ideas and beliefs.

I seriously doubt that that is what you mean to do.

But, as Christian Carter says, that is what it feels like to a man when you try to make him validate your feelings or reactions.

What exactly IS validation? Well, validation is when you are, in essence, seeking his approval to feel what you are feeling. It is feeling the need to EXPLAIN every feeling you have, and explain it until he UNDERSTANDS it.

Christian Carter tells women readers in his Catch Him and Keep Him eBook that this is one of the behaviors that men view as needy and as a turn off. Christian is not saying it IS – he is saying it is how it is generally perceived by men. Again, the gap of understanding between men and women can be more like a gulf at times, and this is one of those things that separate the men from the women.

So what, as women, do we do? Well, simply stop. First and foremost – you are your own person, You do not NEED validation from anyone to know that your own feelings are valid, true and uniquely yours. It is what makes YOU- you. You need to understand that your views do not depend on others, and that you just simply do NOT NEED his validation.

Christian Carter says that the confidence alone that comes from knowing you need no one else’s validation is a HUGE attraction boost, and will help you to Catch him and Keep Him.